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5 Ways to Get Over a BreakupOctober 4, 2019 - Relationship Articles
1. Acknowledge your feelings
Whether your breakup is fresh or even a few months old, it is completely natural to feel devastated after parting with someone who had been important to you. You may be feeling any mix of anger, stress, depression and shock among other emotions. Not only are breakups emotionally strenuous, they can cause actual physical pain in the form of headaches, anxiety, depression, insomnia and sickness. These ailments are a result of elevated cortisol, which is essentially causes a spike in stress hormones
Grieving is an important part of healing. Unless you give yourself the opportunity to acknowledge all of your feelings and the reality of your breakup, it is all too easy to let the feelings fester or even end up in denial. It’s important not to replay countless arguments or “what if” scenarios in your head, but to simply lean into the emotions that you are feeling and give yourself permission to experience them alone or with loved ones.
2. Build your support team
Breakups can feel isolating, but you never need to go through it alone. Reach out to friends and family who want to help you heal after your breakup. Support systems will empower you as you rebuild your self-esteem. When you spend time with your loved ones you are socializing more, staying busy and keeping yourself out of a negative headspace. Choose friends and family members that are good listeners, supportive and gentle.
3. Have a social media detox
A serious downside of social media it is all too easy to check out your ex’s accounts to see what they are doing and who they are with. This is not helpful or healthy. While your ex may post pictures where they look happy, it is important to understand that this does not necessarily mean that they are adjusting to the breakup better than you. Studies have shown that the more time you spend on social media, the more likely you will feel depressed and lonely.
As social media can trigger negative emotions, a social media detox is a great way to separate yourself from these feelings. This does not mean that you have to delete all of your social media apps, you may simply opt to:
- Unfollow your ex and untag all of your photos together.
- Limit your social media usage to a finite number of daily visits or amount of time.
- Download an app such as Moment that monitors your social media time, sets daily limits and provides you with mindfulness exercises.
By creating social media boundaries, you will be giving yourself more opportunities to do other things with your complete attention. Hang out with your friends, watch movies or exercise, any activity will feel much more fulfilling without the distraction of your phone.
4. Do something new
After a breakup you may be feeling a void. According to therapist Patti Sabla, “Starting a new hobby or honing one new skill expands your mind and can also boost your self-confidence after a breakup.” Breakups can feel like endings, but they are also opportunities for new beginnings where you can explore new passions and meet new people. There are endless activities to try out and you will never need to worry about accommodating your time and interests with a partner.
Why not explore:
- Travel: Have a solo adventure to the vacation spot that you have been dreaming of or plan a road trip with your friends.
- Learn: Become a lifelong learner by taking up cooking classes, foreign language studies or finally master Excel.
- Be Creative: Write the novel that’s been sitting in the back of your head, try your hand at pottery or chanel your inner Jackson Pollock with a canvas.
- Exercise: Take a dance class, do some boxing or sign up for a 4k run and enjoy a boost of serotonin and endorphins.
- Volunteer: Volunteer at a foundation dedicated to a cause that you are passionate about such as an animal rescue, local beautification projects or food banks.
Embracing any positive activity will keep you focused, get you socializing and help you forget your heartbreak.
5. Let go of the past
The final and key way to get over a breakup is to let go of the past. Author Deepak Chopra once said, “In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.” Allow yourself to let go of the memories of your ex and anything that reminds you of them. Be it gifts or an old sweater that they left behind, removing anything that reminds you of your ex will separate you from the painful memories attached to them. This can be a cathartic way to let go of the past and symbolic of new beginnings.
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